Chemistry…what is it? (I don’t have a scientific answer, just observations)

This week, oddly, has turned into a somewhat busy week with different men. It’s been a crazy busy week, but sometimes things just line up.

On Saturday, I saw a guy I’ve hooked up with in a 3some (the teacher). He’s a nice guy. Nice face. Lovely, big cock. And he is really really into and good at oral. But my feelings about him are…meh.  I haven’t really gone out of my way to hook up with him since the 3some in March, but I haven’t cut him off either. He’s perfectly nice and there’s nothing that wrong with him (compared to most men I hook up with, his body ain’t great, but given his beautiful cock, it’s sort of a wash). BUT…I’ve been super busy, had a few weeks of men disappearing when it came time to meet, and he was willing to work around my schedule, didn’t care I had my period, and I knew that I wouldn’t have to talk to him/spend much time with him.

So he came over Saturday morning and, as predicted, it was technically excellent oral (although I did have my period, I had a Soft Cup  in, and I’m not even sure he realized I was still on my period. Since I had told him I would be, I didn’t feel the need to mention it again), ok fucking, and he was nice, but left as soon as sex was over. It kind of scratched an itch and I went on with my day.

Monday I had the very nice date with Rocker Guy , which ended with a kiss where I just wanted to melt into him…now that’s chemistry.  And yesterday, Yummy Guy came over and it was just so good. Sex with him is really really good. I think it keeps getting better, too. But, like last night, after I came more times than I could count, he started to fuck my ass. At this point, I kind of knew that I wouldn’t come again…so I didn’t bother to do what I’d usually do during anal (use a toy on my clit – that gives a really intense orgasm that is different than clit alone). I was ok not coming again.  So at this point, I wasn’t really getting anything out of anal, but there was something about that level of closeness that was really really intense and fun. And I can honestly say I enjoyed that, which didn’t get me off at that point, way more than I enjoyed technically excellent oral with the Teacher guy.

So what is it? Why did the Teacher Guy do a lot of things technically right and is still an afterthought compared to these other two? I’m in my 40s and still don’t understand why some people are just people I have chemistry with. And some…I just don’t. It has been fun to realize I can have chemistry with multiple people and that I can have the gushy feeling with more than one guy in a week.

I’m supposed to see Rocker guy tomorrow, and I assume we’ll have sex, so it will be an interesting comparison with Yummy Guy. I’ve got to say though, I am really excited about some of my options at the moment!

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2 thoughts on “Chemistry…what is it? (I don’t have a scientific answer, just observations)

  1. I’m with Jad and you Christine. For me, chemistry is what makes it all special but I also find myself experimenting with guys I am not in any way attracted to because I am so fed up with guys I AM attracted to being hopeless lovers. I have certainly found that technically the best sex of my life was with a guy I found positively ugly, not just unattractive, so I remember that every time I am in a quandary. But there is a part of me that wonders if I will ever find a great lover I am REALLY attracted to? I bloody well hope so because otherwise what can I do? We can’t manufacture attraction and chemistry, but we also need to realise that it isn’t always reciprocal – and sex can still be totally amazing even if we don’t fancy the dude. This is part of my ongoing experiment/learning journey

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