This morning, I had a message from a guy about my age who appeared attractive, had a cute dog, message was normal enough…I responded.
And I have gotten 3 lengthy responses back. Along with “let’s meet tonight”. Mind you, all I sent was a message saying hi, asking how he was doing, and saying I don’t text with someone I haven’t met yet (use kik instead). And he pukes up a crap ton of information to me.
I’m sure some women like that. I find it a little…”chill out, dude. If I want a wall of text, I’ll open a work email.” And I feel like this is often a problem with men my age and why I don’t seem to meet anyone my own age. Granted, a lot of men my age are coupled and they aren’t dating. So the pool is smaller. But they take the limited information I give them in my profile and extract this whole thing about things I am interested in and they demonstrate that, far from an organic-developing casual thing, they want a BFF for life. Which I’m not looking for.
The worst example of this was a guy I was semi-set up with. So, he had apparently messaged me. I’m not sure if I didn’t read his message b/c I didn’t open it or because I did open it and it was a wall of text. But a guy I went out with a year or so ago messaged me and said he thought I would get along with this other guy. So I gave him a chance. I’ll be honest, I barely looked at his profile or message before meeting…HE BROUGHT ME A PRINT OUT OF HIS ORIGINAL MESSAGE TO ME TO GIVE TO ME AFTER HE READ IT TO ME AT THE BAR. Let’s put it this way, the message was at least twice as long as this blog post.
So guys, women…chill out at first. It’s great when you actually have something to be excited about to talk about. And I’m not advocating for boring-ass answers. But if you read your answer back and it is too fucking long…shorten it.